Don’t say: “Lots of people are worse off than you are.”
千万别说：“很多人比你情况更糟糕呢。”
Even if this is true, it doesn’t feel that way at the moment, and does not help your loved one. Being told she is needlessly feeling sorry for herself could make her feel even worse.
Don’t say: “No one ever said life was fair.”
千万别说：“生活本来就是不公平的。”
This comes off as a dismissal of your friend’s feelings.
Don’t say: “Stop feeling sorry for yourself.”
千万别说：“别再自顾自怜。”
Your friend does not know how to stop feeling depressed. Depression is a physical illness, like diabetes or heart disease, and sufferers cannot get over it just by trying harder.
Don’t say: “So you’re depressed. Aren’t you always?”
千万别说：“你是不是总这么愁眉苦脸啊?”
This minimizes what can be a serious disorder.
Don’t say: “It’s your own fault.”
千万别说：“这都你自己的错。”
No one chooses depression.
Don’t say: “Believe me, I know how you feel. I was once depressed for several days.”
千万别说：“相信我，我知道你的感受。我曾经郁闷了好几天。”
Depression is different from just feeling sad or blue.